(A column I write for Penthouse Magazine)
1. I have been married for almost a year, and it seems my husband isn’t putting as much effort into the relationship as he used to when we were dating. I thought getting married would be a much deeper aspect to our relationship but nowadays I feel I have to remind him I’m still here.
This is why romantic comedies fade to black at the end. They don’t dare show you what happens next. Only dramatic and angst fueled films start with the wedding. The problem here is that you think you and your husband and you share the same brain. Men see the wedding as a finish line, while women see it as the starting line. We think..,’There…my ultimate commitment of the love, she had the wedding she wanted, everyone saw us declare our love, now I can put my feet up.” He has been hearing your wedding plans for the last year and a half…and going along with them. Now he feels it is his time to focus on his goals. Don’t worry this is normal, and if I had the solution I’d be typing this to you from my yacht as I would be the highest grossing marriage therapist of all time. Find a way to express your needs without being needy. The philosophical approach would be to do things for him that you would want done for you. And see if that sparks any action on his part. That along with a LIGHT conversation should change the dynamic.
2. How does one stay faithful when they’re constantly surrounded by temptation and beautiful women?
I have no idea, but I have heard that when there is real love and commitment this is really not an issue at all… ever. The fact is that many people jump into relationships way before they should, creating a circumstance wherein a pretty smile can change the playing field quickly. Temptation is actually always around, whether in a super market check out line, a night club or the waiting room at a doctor’s office. There are no special exceptions. The rule here is to simply make sure you are with the one you want… Everything else becomes a blur if you are. Or so they say.
3. Why is it so hard for some men to break off with that “cheater” mentality?
Well, it is the same reason women cheat….they are either not getting something out of their current relationship or they weren’t cut out to be in monogamous relationships to begin with. 1. Not everyone is cut out for monogamy. 2. Not everybody cheats. In the case of Dave Navarro….see number 1.
4. When i get attached to man, i’d rather give him oral sex 3 to 1 than regular sex. Is there something wrong with that?
Hmmm, that seems like less work for the guy. What’s your number?
5. If immortality or finding your Soul mate were a choice, which would you choose?
Immortality for sure, because if I found a soul mate, I’d wanna be dead within a week.
6. What’s your take on genital piercings? Do you think that they enhance or inhibit the level of arousal that you can achieve?
I have had really great sex with people with piercings and really great sex with people who don’t have genital piercings. If there is no chemistry or connection if makes for bad sex. I don’t care if you have an antenna hanging out there that picks up Anderson Cooper, bad sex is bad sex.