I have actually been hired by a publication to do a sex and love advice column! HAHAHA! Why not? Since I know how to succeed and fail at both I may as well give it a shot. I suppose that part of success is also knowing how to deal with failure in these departments. Anyway, if you guys could help me out with some questions for publication, I would really appreciate it. I will, of course, protect your privacy… If you could include a first name that would be great! DN
Dark Matter – June 2
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I have perhaps a brief hiatus from the average basic relationship crisis. Judging by my brief glimpses into your lifestyle online I suspect that you may be familiar with this situation so I would love to get your input if possible.
Having been a professional fetish model for many years I seem to be consistently met with only 2 approaches from men or women and frankly it is quite frustrating, both as a source of ignorant annoyance and boring consistency.
I am met with either the opinions that because i do fetish work that i must be willing to do whenever and whenever without limitation, confusion, or hesitation. Then there’s my personal favorite, the uneducated and sheltered response of those interested in getting to know me better *hint*, but because i have done in their mind weird stuff before, that I must have to have weirder acts to be satisfied and am no longer capable of living a normal private life.
Either i am a complete anomaly to be kinky and still enjoy vanilla activities, or this has to be happing to many people in other edgy industries.
Either way, where do i go from here? My best guess is that I have 3 options, 1 keep my business private. which of course wearies me since I do not lie and keeping secrets is not my forte. 2 accept anyone who blindly takes 1 of these 2 paths as someone I am never going to be ultimately interested in. or 3 develop a strategy to curb these 2 assumptions to a happy middle ground.
However because this is my life, I would greatly appreciate outside clarification from an objective standpoint. If not for only my sanity’s sake ;P
Much Love
~O
hi dave! hope you don’t mind me posting here, but i figured this is a good place as any. just wanted to say THANK YOU for being a part of the upcoming bet tzedek concert on 6/26/10. as you probably know, bet tzedek proivdes legal aid to low-income residents in LA. my husband is on the committee and we’re trying to raise money for this very good cause. for all you L.A. fans out there, you can purchase your tickets or donate here: http://justiceball2010.eventbrite.com/ (and please indicate you were referred by jason kupper).
p.s. thank you so much for your time and being a part of this great cause!!!
hey Dave! How to get away from relathionship and person that is bad for you? I had with my girlfriend very strong connection from the beginning never had that before but she is just bad for me with her insecurities and jalousy..She even cheted me and I couldnt left her and found a girl to mak it even and that girl was amazing as a person and phisically so I Ieft my girlfriend..and when I went to sleep I starteed filling the worst emotions in my life so bad tha it hurted phisically..so I tought it will pass in couple of days but it was just worse I couldnt eat, sleep, go to gym nothing that I loved to do..some part of me was destroing myself..so I had to left the new girlfrined that I really like and get back to old one because it was just worse and worse..now I am happy that I can do things that I love in normal daily life, but I have to break up with this relathionship but I dont know what to do..I break up 3 times and every time everything is ok untill I go to sleep my brain destroys me..so I am scared to break up because of myself that I cant control..its like jail, any advice?
words
out of my mouth
snowball
into your her mouth
suck
blow hard swap
words
i have spoken
heed my words
children of jane
love do not hate
words
out if my mouth
you betrayed
the hand that feeds
why do you hate me
disciples of jane?
i have given you gifts
i have given you my seed
i have given you everything you wished for
and now you hate me?
words
come sister come
all over me
mock me hate me love me
bleed me,
your heroin freak
Okay i have a relatiosnshjip advice questions or a few.
First, i am getting a bit fed up now i am getting older with all this analysis of relatiosnships…e.g…”that is a CO DEPENDENT relationship bla bla bla.” Its all very well, but there seems to be all this pressure to have ” normal healthy functioning relationships” and not unhealthy dysfunctional reltionships, but really co dependencey and all this shit and dysfunction has been going on since the beginning of time, so whats normal anyway. Then you get these people who tell you you should be getting a healthy relationship and so on next thing you find out they are divorced for the third time and their partner was a crossdresser having homosexual sex with the deputy prime minister who has just released a paper on morality and family life.
So I am in a so called unhealthy relationship with someone i suppose , i mean he called me fuckwit last night. Now some would say this is terrible, but i believe i need to be told that at times because at times i am a totalfuckwit.
i in return told him today he was a stupid fucking selfish idiot, which he is and spoilt and all the rest, and stupid, duh, and whatever. But my question is what do you do with someone who is determined to kill themselves in front of you? Even if they are a dick? Even tho they are being a dick partly so you’ll just let them do it, do you just persevere or get a job in tescos. I was thinking about doingboth. P.S. deep poem Snowball, are you thriteen, a difficult age, it only gets worse. Sorry about badspelling and grammar, its vodka.
oh god, the fucking stupid little shit is now hiding out next door, i think i’ll just get a job at tesco’s and forget about the rest, men, are they areally worth it. Well. I mean don’t ever have high expectations of men, like pet rabbits, i soppose they are okay if you don’t ever exect too much of them. they are not really higher functioning creatures a lot of the time, Just let them go around thinking they are wonderful, its very important to them, good grief. Not rabbits that is, theyjust want lettuce. Guinea pigs are my own personal love. They are so gentle and smell so nice if living in a relatively clean cage.
P.s i mean absolutely no disrespect to anyone’s pet rabbit by the above comment. They are farsu-perior to a lot of mankind.
hi! My name is..well i won’t say, but while im here id like to reccomend the create and craft channel on some sky tv channel. The v best thing about this channel is that the people who present the card craft kits are so friendly! its like having friends in your room! And thy wouldn’t ever be rude to you like real people because they want to sell their card and stamping kits and they are paid to be polite and you can emai lthem and everything!
Saw Three Days video in Amsterdam. I love the various strum patterns you do in Three Days. These patterns are under utilized in your work post ’91. Please bring some of those cool clean-ish strum patterns back.
I tried so hard after he left to make my heart hard. And now you have undone all my hard work.” ~I Wrote This For You
holy smokes! I didn’t know it was going to link to my website. Can you maybe take it down. Thank you!
hello, i have very personal question to which ask. i had male partner for past two years and he was very very big. now he is gone (being the dick that he was) and i can’t find same size man. not only did he leave big gaping whole in me heart, but also, well you know, down there. soooo, how do fix this?? surgery??? can you provide names of doctors, and/or surgeons? muchos gracias
*throws bret a get-out-of-jail for free card*
THERE! ya dumb ass! see how easy that wuzzz?
“Dreams unwind, love’s a state of miiiiind”
mmm strawberry ice cream with m&m’s is fuckin’ fantabulous!
*licks lips*
dear smokey, you have no real problems. I am a magnet for big dicks. Don’t ask me how, I just am – I don’t even know why/how/when (ai yai yai!). Anyways, I have more than I can handle, so please email me and I will hook you up!!
Like Chris Cornel sang in Audioslave: “I’ll help you find something to driiiiivvve!”
-jezzi (livin’ lovin’ she’s jus a woeman)
Dave, my boyfriend is a…. he’s a… um, um…. he’s a MUSICIAN!! there i said it. And he is crazier than me. waaaaaay crazier!!! He tries to role-play my many personalities in all his songs, and by doing so, he thinks he is plucking my head, ya know? but he is just really making things worse. I have no issues with all that he is, so why does he torment me like this? I mean c’mon, do musicians really need to mark their territory to the nth degree for the umpteenth time till kingdom come or WHAT?!?!?!!! I really cannot express my total disdain for his usual waaaay of communication with me (or lack of). I mean what does it all boil down to? I envision the day when he writes a song and sings “Please pass the salt” at the dinner table all so he can say 3 days later. “Um, NO I did not tell you ‘please pass the salt’ “. You heard a song. Simple as that. A fantasy. A dream. Nothing more, nothing less. Whatever YOUR imagination wants to do with it is totally inside YOUR head.”
See my dilemna???
I swear I’m gonna off him one day… the day is commin’!!!
anybody ever eaten too much sugar-free ice cream in one sitting? no? yes? maybe? Instead of sugar it has maltitol in it (a sugar-alcohol) and can give you gas pains that make you feel like your guts are starting back up 2 days after abdominal surgery, know what I mean? There’s no smell, just rolling waves of abdominal muscular crampy pain!
rollin’ rollin’ rollin’, keep them doggies rollin’!
rollin’ rollin’ rollin’! Raw Hide!! keeerchah!
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